Have you ever done something nice for someone, looked forward to how they will react, and then felt let down and unappreciated? If you think back to how it felt, you will remember the annoyance, the uncomfortable feelings, and maybe you even felt like your efforts had been wasted. It’s not a nice feeling at all. Now, let’s flip it over. How does it feel to be shown appreciation? The smile on the face of...
Do you want to feel good?
This week we have had lovely sunny weather here in Scotland, alhumdulilah. The other day I took my children to their weekly Mother and Toddler group and couldn’t help but notice how happy all the other mums looked. There were smiles all round, and everyone seemed more cheery than usual. When I commented on the joyful atmosphere I had entered upon, smiles widened and a contagious burst of laughter filled the room. Even the very young babies...
Why Can’t He Read My Mind?
Have you ever felt confused about why your spouse doesn’t understand why you are emotionally upset? Or wondered why he doesn’t see your point of view? Many women feel frustrated and disappointed when they feel their spouse doesn’t feel their pain and show the acknowledgement they want him to. Let’s be honest and think back to what really happened that last time. What did we really want? What was our inner most desire which, because...
He Loves Me, He Loves Me Not…
Do you sometimes find yourself wondering whether or not your spouse truly loves you? During difficult times in our marriage shaytan tries his utmost to prolong the pain, prolong the argument or the silence, prolong and intensify the gap between a married couple. You may have found yourself thinking along the lines of… If he truly loved me, he would have comforted me when I was down. If he truly loved me, he wouldn’t have...
Understanding the Other Half
Many of us grow up socialising with the same sex. As Muslims, our social gatherings tend to be segregated; sometimes that’s intentional, and at other times the male conversations dominate one side of the room while us women are on the other side. As we advance through the years our experience informs us that we are better understood by other women than by our male counterparts. As a result, we turn to our sisters and...
The Silent Rule
You will be familiar with terms such as “we’ve fallen out”, or “we’re not on speaking terms”. When a couple start ignoring or avoiding conversation with each other, a tense cold environment begins to develop. In reality, this becomes an unspoken established rule which creeps up, or “the Silent Rule” as I like to call it. If you have ever found yourself in such a scenario, you may have experienced feelings of hurt, frustration, anger...
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Assalaamu alaykum! ’Every marriage has its ups and downs’. We hear this often, and for those of us who are married it will most probably ring true. Having said that, I often wonder why divorce rates have been increasing so much in recent years. While I agree that some couples just aren’t meant to be, it appears that divorce seems an easier option now than it was for Muslim couples previously, whatever the reasons may...
