When in the THICK of the Pain

How does life look like when things are going well?

You feel light - things just happen pretty easily during the day.
You feel happy - Everyone around you also seems to be happy and everyone’s getting along.
You feel grateful - When you look to the people around you, you’re intensely grateful to have them.

What about when you're in the thick of the pain?
When the burden feels unbearable?
When you literally can't see the end of the tunnel?

At times like this, it's dark.

Pitch dark.

It can be so …

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How Clutter Piles Up In Your Mind

When we start physically decluttering our house, it feels great!

The tidy rooms, the clear surfaces and the bigger spaces bring a sense of light airiness into our homes.

Well, that’s until someone comes along and plonks their unopened letters on a newly cleared kitchen worktop! 😊

As frustrating as it might be to see some letters lying on top of all the effort you put in, you might decide to leave them there so you can get others to take responsibility and put their own belongings where they s…

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When Things Don't Go As Planned

A couple of years ago, we had intended to buy a certain car. It was just what we needed; more space in the back for the kids and their growing bodies, bigger boot space and of course, it wasn't a rust bucket 😊

(If you're on my email list, you'll remember the rust bucket!)

However, I asked our trusted family member who knows more about cars than everyone else put together! And he came up with another plan... A plan which meant the car I had been thinking of getting was now simply not going to h…

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Is Death Difficult To Discuss?


I was doing the whole bed time routine with my little one last night. Usually he recites his duas (supplications), I tell him I love him and then I be silent and he nods off within minutes. 
(Unless it’s one of those nights – and if you’re a mum you know exactly what I mean). 😊

This time, I said “Allah hafidh” at the end. It means Allah is the Protector, but is often used as ‘goodbye’.

I wasn’t expecting his response.

“Mama, don’t say Allah hafidh because then I think you’re going to g…

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Relationships and Serious Illness

I was speaking to someone recently who mentioned that she experiences some physical issues during her time of the month that she feels might not be normal.

So, she decided to do what any of us would - Google it! :)

What she discovered was something very unpleasant. It appeared as though the symptoms she had could be the cause of a serious illness.

Thus began her worry.

BEFORE she Googled anything about it, she didn't know she had any illness. She had no worry whatsoever.

AFTER she Googled…

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The Emptiness of Social Media

Many of us have known the ill effects of too much screen time, getting too involved in social media and having an imbalance of tech over real human interaction.

I don’t think we anticipated, though, how lockdown would exponentially increase our use of laptops, iPads, tablets, phones and any other gadget we can get our hands on.

As a coach and counsellor, every day I get to see the inner game of what’s going on under the surface in people’s lives, and have noticed the huge ill effect of social …

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How Anger Can Take Over

When we are worked up and angry about something, it’s interesting how blind we can become and not even realise.

Yet, in hindsight we can often see where our blinders were.

Take a simple example:

You tell your daughter (or niece or son) that she needs to tidy her room today. She gets a reminder in the morning, and then later after school. But every time you glance in her room for a little check in – it’s still not done.

After dinner, it’s still not done.

After homework, it’s still not done…

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